Chapter 10 - Returning to Work
I returned when Ruby and Owen were ten months old.
Not nine.
Not because I failed the plan.
Because life changed.
My employer, Meridian Medical Supply, offered:
Four days in office.
One remote day.
Reduced travel for three months.
No promotion guarantee.
No magical restoration of career momentum.
I had been gone almost a year.
My replacement had become permanent in one account group.
I came back to a different portfolio.
I hated that.
Still:
Salary resumed.
Retirement contributions resumed.
Professional identity resumed.
Daycare cost:
$3,480 monthly for both.
Painful.
But now I refused the old question:
Does my paycheck cover daycare?
Our combined parenting obligation did.
Temporary support orders allocated child support from Colin based on income and parenting time, with childcare expenses apportioned under applicable rules.
No one said:
Natalie pays because she works.
Then Colin’s job.
His employer terminated him after felony plea, not because I called.
Company policy required financial integrity for logistics managers with account access.
He found another job after release:
Warehouse planning analyst.
Lower salary:
Around $82,000.
Not unemployable forever.
Child support adjusted based on actual earnings and legal standards.
No punitive millions.
Then house sold.
Final price:
$620,000.
After mortgage, realtor, closing:
Net around $178,000.
Some temporary joint debt paid.
Remaining divided with other marital property offsets.
I received approximately $93,000 attributable to house/equalization.
Colin approximately $74,000 after agreed adjustments.
Not confiscation.
Then reimbursement account.
Balance counted in marital estate.
Brokerage account:
Premarital component partly Colin’s separate.
Marital contributions/losses analyzed.
The court/settlement accounted for dissipation of certain marital funds used for speculative trading after marriage breakdown became evident.
Not every loss.
Specific transactions.
Colin’s share reduced by about $11,600 as property adjustment.
No $46,880 Natalie debt.
Spreadsheet never became law.
Then my retirement.
Qualified domestic relations order allocated appropriate marital portion of Colin’s retirement to me, and vice versa if applicable.
Not punishment.
Marital property.
Then child accounts.
Ruby:
Restored balance around $31,400 after principal, gains, later market movement.
Owen:
Around $31,600.
Martin recommended successor independent custodian because I was overwhelmed by litigation and wanted separation from family conflict.
Could I remain?
Yes.
I chose Prairie Fiduciary Trust Company as professional custodian under terms.
Not Beth.
Why not?
Because I loved Beth.
I did not need love and control in same person.
Martin smiled.
“Your father would approve.”
I cried.
Then parenting review after Colin’s release.
Dr. Ortiz evaluated.
Colin completed six months of intervention.
Acknowledged:
Financial control.
Physical aggression.
Resentment.
He did not blame me in sessions.
Good.
Recommendation:
Supervised parenting visits restart.
Twice weekly.
Then if stable, move to monitored community visits.
I hated.
Still agreed.
The twins were almost one.
First visit:
Ruby stared at him.
Owen cried.
Colin cried too.
Supervisor wrote:
Father appropriately followed child cues, did not force physical affection, accepted assistance managing both.
Good.
Second:
He changed two diapers.
Fed.
Ruby fell asleep on his chest.
That report hurt in a way I could not explain.
Not jealousy.
Grief for what could have been.
Then Colin sent a parenting app message after fifth visit:
Thank you for keeping them on same bottle schedule.
I stared.
No accusation.
No invoice.
I wrote:
Their schedule is in shared care sheet.
Nothing more.
Then Beth said:
“Are you going to forgive?”
“I don’t know.”
“Do you have to?”
“No.”
Good.
Then apartment.
I rented near daycare for six months.
Eventually bought a three bedroom townhouse using:
Part of house proceeds.
My separate savings.
Mortgage in my name.
Not huge.
No nursery history.
The twins slept in separate cribs across same room.
One night both screamed.
I sat on floor between them.
Exhausted.
Then laughed.
No one told me mothers don’t get days off.
I called Beth.
“Can you come tomorrow morning?”
“Yes.”
Help.
Not defect.
Then one afternoon at work, Martin called.
The children’s accounts were fully reconciled.
No additional missing transfers.
Good.
But he had found something in Dad’s original trust file.
A letter.
Not prophecy.
Not warning about Colin.
Dad wrote it years before I married.
It said:
If one of my daughters ever pauses her work to raise children, do not let anyone call that pause a lack of contribution. Money is easy to count because numbers behave. Care is harder because people pretend what they cannot price is worth nothing.
I sat at my desk and cried.
Colin had spent months assigning prices to everything I did.
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Dad had understood the trap before the twins existed.
And I wished he had lived long enough to tell me himself.
